· here’s everything you need to know about val kilmer ’ s tumultuous romance with joanne whalley and his family life with their two children. He made a heartbreaking revelation about his. Joanne was pictured embracing her daughter in. · val kilmer ’ s ex- wife , joanne whalley, was spotted consoling their daughter, mercedes, on wednesday morning after the “top gun” actor died on tuesday night. Kilmer met his wife , the actress joanne whalley, while working with her in ron howard and george lucas’s 1988 fantasy epic willow. · actor val kilmer , who died tuesday, shares two children with his ex- wife , actress joanne whalley. · val kilmer spent the last 24 years of his life single despite having a string of public relationships with some of hollywood’s brightest stars. · val kilmer s daughter mercedes, 33, and his ex- wife joanne whalley, 63, were pictured for the first time since the actors tragic death at 65. When did val kilmer and joanne whalley get. The pair married that same year but divorced in 1996. He made a heartbreaking revelation about his faltering love life in the years before his tragic death as he admitted to feeling “lonely every day”.